Got to looking at the different people in my life and started thinking how there are so many types of friends. And having so much time on my hands—not—I decided to share my observations by putting them in categories.
We have the:
** Good-Supportive (I’m there for you all the time) Friend
** Solid-Dependable (I’m also there for you all the time) Buddy
** Business-Professional (let’s do coffee/lunch . . . Monday thru Friday only) Associate
** Religious (I love you in church) Comrade
** Let’s-Get-Together-Once-in-a-Blue-Moon <and Hoist one too Many> Companion
** Fair-weather (sometimes yes, mostly no) Acquaintance
** What-can-You-do-for-Me (and Maybe I’ll do Something for You) Pal
** Fake—totally—and Proud-of-It Chum.
Some people are a bit of one, a little of another—like the sort that smiles and utters encouraging words, then does nothing above and beyond to cement or support the relationship. A spot of favor or a smidgen of kindness extended beyond requisite words appears to be an effort . . . or maybe favor and kindness are never considered at all. Conversation is simple, doing is not.
The ideal friend? The kind that kicks you in the butt. The colleague or acquaintance or buddy-bud who not only offers that get-your-<bleep>-in-gear lecture, but follows up. It’s not all talk; there’s action too. Help, mentoring, advice and/or assistance aren’t even contemplated; they’re simply provided.
Of course it all depends on the intention(s), the level of kindness or unselfishness, the effort involved, and whether you truly want to commit. If we’re going to pursue friendship, we should make it a full-blown endeavor and proceed from the heart. We get what we give—in all things.