Recently got rid of old shoes, tops, pants and way too many papers that took up room for naught. Feels good to purge items that no longer prove of use or value (and don’t worry, they went into donation boxes and recycling bins).
Did the same with a couple of friends, people who profess to be pals, but who use others to advance personal purposes and needs. They want, so they ask, and even demand. They’re like spiraling twisters that yank everything into their vortexes, carrying little for consequences or outcomes as long as they have accomplished their quest.
There’ll always be a thank you and a smile . . . then another request . . . and another. The cycle goes on. Maybe some of us have that tattooed on our foreheads: feel free to take advantage coz you’ll never be turned down.
There’s being a buddy and there’s being a victim. Sometimes it takes a while to understand which is which.
You may have one of these self-centered souls in your own life. Power to them. No hard feelings and all that. But lessons definitely learned.
Like our self-centered pals (and we’ll use that word loosely, shall we?), there’s no reason we can’t be selfish now and again. Don’t want to do something? No need to scream a vociferous “no” and follow it with an expletive or two. Gentle turn-downs are fine. And walking away is even better if the recipient won’t accept the refusal. If it makes you feel better, do it with a smile, and keep it genuine.